This article has been Written by Chitra Nakra, Principal V.V.D.A.V Public School, Vikas Puri. She is a state award winner and founder of Akanksha, a special school for children with special needs.
Her helpline PRAYAS counsels children on a regular basis.
Don’t we often feel an overwhelming rush of affection for our sleeping child? I can understand the lump of emotion that rises when your little one takes his first tottering step, holding your apprehensive finger, into the school.
You can help your child in many ways. Your love towards your child tells him a great deal about himself. It is the foundation of the first positive attitude that you inoculate in your child. Many a times I have met children walking into the classroom with their heads bowed down, clearly giving the vibes that they are in the school not because they want to be but because they have been sent by their parents. They are a few Do’s that can certainly help your precious one.
1. Take out at least fifteen minutes everyday to talk to your child about topics of relevance that interest him.
2. Once a day, be with him physically as well as mentally.
3. Let your child known that even when he is at school, he is missed at home every moment.
4. Always remember the names of his best friends at school.
5. Leave something nice for him to discover, once in a while, in his bag, under his pillow in his boxing gloves etc.
Your attitude can make all the difference in how your child deals with school. A parent who makes an effort to recognize both his own and his child’s learning styles and then uses this information significantly increases his child’s chances for successes as a student and as a person. After all, how we perform as individuals will determine how we perform as a nation. It is possible for the children to be positive, encouraging and more thoughtful human beings. Change takes constant time and effort. Set examples and your child will grow up, exhibiting the same positive attitude about him and others. You have your own expectations. Yet the child will make mistakes.
Learning is a process, it is not a destination. A mistake is the first step towards self – reliance. It is important part of learning. Too many of us are content to be just followers. An error tells us that it is time to change tactics, look in another direction. If you’re not failing in some of your efforts now and then, you are not been innovative. Explain to your little one that it is okay to be a non-achiever at times. Relate to him times when you as a young child were afraid to fail. Tell him about the times when you failed. Talk to him about your first fall when you rode your bicycle. Discuss with him, your experience when you almost drowned the first time you tired to swim. Avoiding failure may mean avoiding learning and growing. Active learning depends upon willingness to take risks, acceptance of the error and openness of ideas. ‘Be positive’. Learn to listen to your child. At home, imagine this scenario. A child calling his mother again and again. The mother answered but does no look at the child. The child calls again. The mother gets irritated and screams at the child. The child gets upsets and goes away. Remember, eye contact besides being important and common courtesy, also tells your child, how important he is to you. Sit down and listen patiently to what your darling has to say to you. It is not easy for a child to feel comfortable taking to someone whose physical size reminds him how small and powerless he is. Speak to him politely and use appropriate language. A parent provides the eager youngster her first role model for language being used by the youngster. Imagine this: A mother and a daughter suddenly spot an earthworm. This instant reaction of the mother is, “Eeks ! Get away’. So, for the rest of her life, the daughter associates an earthworm with the word Ekes. Give your child a lot of ‘warm fuzzes’. Warm fuzzes are things we can say and do for others to encourage them and boost their feelings of self-esteem. In learning to give warm fusses, a child begins to consider the feelings of others, to empathise. Once this is done your child’s performance at school would automatically improve.
‘Every work is the self- portrait of the person who did it, autograph your work with excellence.’
– ( Collected from Various Resources es )
This article was written by admin